Our bodies are changing...and well...that means our bodies are changing ;).
Our trusted, go-to OBGYN, Dr. Carol Tanksle,y is back on the show to remind us that as our bodies change our need for intimacy does not. In fact, midlife can be a time of great emotional upheaval, or at least of emotional awareness, which can then impact how we experience sex. The combination of physical changes with all of the other external life circumstance changes, it's no surprise our bodies don't respond like they did twenty or even ten years ago.
After decades of working as a physician and speaking with thousands of women, Dr. Carol gives incredible advice to both married and single women about the need for intimacy and self-care during midlife. As whole people, we must address all areas of ourselves in order to be fully healthy.
No topic is off limits and we know this is one you want to talk about, so here we are. Sex in midlife. It's a thing. Let's make it a very good thing as God intended.
Connect with Dr. Carol
A few things mentioned on the shoe
Dr. Carol's new book Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships
Good Clean Love personal lubricant
Dr. Carol's Guide to Women's Health
Dr. Carol's episode with us on menopause
Dr. Juli Slattery's episode on Difficult Conversations: Talking About Sexuality
Questions to Help You Rise
- How is midlife impacting your body?
- How are you feeling about sex these days?
- If you are married, how can you talk to your spouse about sex and what you would like?
- What is one thing you can do today to "deal with your stuff" as Dr. Carol mentions at the end of the episode?
Do you struggle with aging? Do you look in the mirror and wonder where the person you used to be went? Or maybe you are even having a hard time reading this description because your eye sight is changing but you don’t want to get glasses.
In this conversation, Heather Creekmore, author and coach, discusses the fear of aging otherwise known as Gerascophobia – yes, there is really a name for it. She highlights the cultural shifts and ageism that contribute to this fear, as well as the pressure to conform to societal beauty standards.
Heather emphasizes the importance of settling the heart issue and finding contentment in our identity, rather than relying on external validation. She also addresses the personal choices we make regarding our appearance and the need to avoid judgment towards others.
This episode explores the challenges and questions that arise with aging, particularly in relation to physical appearance and body changes. It delves into topics such as dealing with gray hair, struggling with body changes and weight gain, settling identity, and embracing aging gracefully and gratefully.
Let’s be people at Our Time To Rise who get BETTER with age!
Find out more about Heather Creekmore: On her website OR Instagram
SOMETHINGS YOU HEARD IN THE SHOW
Netflix show: Nailed it
Heather’s book: The 40 Day Body Image Workbook
“Do we want to believe the word or do we want to believe the world?”
“Who do I want to become? and how do I become that person now?”
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
In what area are you most struggling with aging?
What does God want you to know about this area of your life?
What is unique about the age you are right now that you don’t want to miss?
Who do you want to become?
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Just because we are middle-aged doesn't mean we need to look frumpy. In fact, fashion stylists and Instagram duo Julie Powell and Krista Olufson teach us just the opposite. This is a time in our lives when we want to feel good. How we dress in the morning can help with that.
On their Instagram profile @lastseenwearing, Julie and Krista teach us how to style clothes instead of just wearing them. From accessories (hello belts are a big deal!) to the cut of a jean, we talk through how we can look fresh and up to date as our bodies and styles change. It's the small things that make us look put together and then we feel our best as we walk through our days.
If you are looking for some practical help in how to be age-appropriate in your fashion (we do not need to dress like our daughters) while also current, this episode is for you. Because as we rise to meet life's challenges we want to look and feel our best.
Connect with Krista and Julie
Some things mentioned
Comfortable shoe brands:
-Birken stock- Sandals
Jewellery:
-Maggie bracelet
-Risen Jewellery- Christian Jewellery
Some questions to help you rise
1. Do you feel tension between your faith and an interest in fashion?
2. What action step could you take to organize your current clothes into styled outfits?
3. When you do an inventory of your clothes, what do you have enough of and need to stop buying?
4. What can you purchase to make more styled outfits with what you already have?
5. How could you use accessories to spice up your current outfit?
Do you want to make the most of your natural beauty? Do you want to feel good in the clothes you are wearing?
In this conversation, Rebecca Reid, a certified personal color analyst, discusses the power of color analysis and how it can enhance personal style and beauty. She explains that each person is unique and their coloring should be reflected in their color palette.
Rebecca also discusses the comeback color analysis is making in the world and the benefits it offers, such as simplifying decision-making and saving time and money. We camp in the idea of "harmony" in color choices and how it be a game changer as we consider how to look our best.
We define such terms as undertone, value range, and chroma and why these matter. You will be happy to also know that the colors that looks best on you also apply to make up. Yes ladies, we get to simplify our make-up drawers in this episode also (BIG win)!
If you are curious about how color can help you feel and look your best, this episode is for you.
Find Rebecca
Rebecca's: website and Instagram
Some Things You Heard on the Show:
Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix
The Munsell System (color analysis)
Question to help you rise:
1. When you heard Rebecca talking about how God made your coloring uniquely and intentionally, how did that make you feel?
2. When have you felt “in harmony” with your coloring?
3. How could you cultivate more peace with how God made you?
4. How could you simplify your closet and make up drawer based on what you learned today?