Ever thought about going back to school to pursue that career you've always dreamed of—but life just got in the way?
In this episode, Ashley Larkin shares her inspiring journey of returning to school to study counseling—all while raising three teenage daughters. We dive into what it really takes to make a big move like this, from learning how to discern your next right step to leaning on community support and pushing through the challenges of stepping back into the classroom after years away.
More than anything, Ashley reminds us that your worth isn’t tied to your resume—and it’s never too late to go after something new. If you’ve been wondering whether this could be your next chapter, Ashley’s wisdom and encouragement will help you!
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- How does your wiring point you toward next steps?
- How can you borrow someone else's beliefs or courage on your behalf, and how can you ask that person to offer some belief or courage to you, that you can hold onto?
- Is there a word phrase or image that keeps resurfacing for you?
- How can you practice receiving God's love?
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How do we face what makes us scared? How do we muster up courage when all we feel is afraid? Midlife has no shortage of fears, those things that are out of our control and threaten to bring us harm, or at least discomfort. We wake up in the middle of the night, we ask God for definitive outcomes, but mostly we wish for clarity and certainty when those outcomes were never promised. We have to figure out how to live with fear. We have to figure out what courage looks like.
In this episode, Alex and Krista share their process when they are facing fear and want to make courageous decisions. Hear how they understand God's call toward courage and the Biblical characters that exemplify it. We would love to know, what makes you afraid? And how do you find courage?
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Bible verses
Book
Courageous
Atomic Habits- James Clear
Quote
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Ever felt like you're not enough, or that someone’s going to find out you don’t belong? You’re not alone—and Mary Marantz gets it.
In this honest and inspiring conversation, Mary—author, speaker, and host of The Mary Marantz Show—shares her journey from growing up in a trailer in rural West Virginia to graduating from Yale Law and becoming a bestselling author. But this isn’t a highlight reel. Mary opens up about wrestling with fear, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and the pressure to constantly strive for more.
We talk about what it really means to feel stuck (especially in midlife), why procrastination isn't laziness, and how urgency can actually be a gift. Mary also breaks down the difference between setting goals and living with intention—and why that distinction matters.
If you’re tired of chasing worth and ready to reclaim your story, this episode is for you.
FIND MORE ABOUT MARY MARANTZ
Mary Marantz - Website and Instagram
Mary Marantz Book- Underestimated
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Mary's Other Books
-Dirt
-Slow Growth, Equals Strong Roots
Other Books
Mary's Podcast Show
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- Is there an area of life where you are feeling stuck?
- What face of fear is feeding that: Perfectionism, procrastination, people pleasing etc?
- How can you show up with authenticity in every area of your life so that you feel integrated as you go through your days?
- Where do you feel like you've put on imposter syndrome as a means of self-protection?
- How can you show up with intention daily to help you live in integrity?
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How do we face grief when it feels overwhelming? How do we keep from being bitter when life turns out differently than we planned for? What do we say to God when we're simply pissed off and don't want to face the day because we did not ask for this kind of day?
Our faith does not need to be shallow, offering us only minor comfort for minor problems. Jesus understands pain and grief in ways no other human can. Yet we feel like we shouldn't go to him with our actual heartache.
Linda Dillow shares some of her life story with us. She is a woman who knows grief and anger. She also understands that life doesn't always get easier, sometimes it gets harder. And yet she has discovered some heart practices that connect her to God in these most grieved places.
If you are looking for more than a superficial faith, you are longing for a theology that withstands the worst life can throw at you and a relationship with Jesus that is authentic, push play. Linda is a comfort and a model of what it is to choose to turn back to God while asking the Holy Spirit to heal.
We want this kind of faith for us and for you.
FIND MORE ABOUT LINDA DILLOW
Linda Dillow's Book- Hope for My Hurting Heart
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Chokmah- A Hebrew word meaning -Wisdom
Linda's Book
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What would you title the hard story you are living through right now?
- Linda shared about her journey of forgiveness, who might you need to forgive and what is keeping you from doing that?
- What is a declaration of hope that you can write over your story today?
- What would it look like for you to worship in the minor-key right now?
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We did it—500 episodes! Today, we’re celebrating this incredible milestone by taking a look back at the conversations that have shaped us, stretched us, and stayed with us.
From unforgettable guests who made us laugh, to powerful lessons that changed the way we think and lead—this episode is a tribute to the moments that mattered most.
We’re sharing the episodes we return to again and again… and the ones you keep talking about too.
Whether you’ve been with us from the beginning or just found us recently, this 500th episode is a celebration of the journey we’ve taken together.
Come celebrate with us!
LIST OF FAVORITE EPISODE
John Mark Comer - The Secret to Enoying Your Life
5 Episodes That I Think of Often
- 388 How Boundaries Help Us Get What We Really Want for Christmas with Sasha Shillcut (people are upset when you establish new boundaries bc they benefitted from your lack of boundaries or are resentful they didn’t maintain the same boundary)
- 444 Love, Pray, Listen, Parenting Young Adults with Mary DeMuth (emphasis on maintaining relationship)
- 266 Our Relationship With Alcohol with Jenn Kautsch (Her own story of determining alcohol was no longer serving her)
- 376 Midlife Is No Joke: The Big Questions in Midlife (The things that used to work no longer do)
- 332 This Cultural Moment: Facing Reality with Jen Oshman (On being an informed citizen with boundaries)
Krista
Inheritance Gone Right with Sean and Jill Maher
Helping your young adult kids find their career path with Tyler Lafferty
The Soul of Shame with Dr Curt Thompson
Midlife is no joke - The big questions in midlife with Kelly Flanagan
Resilient Faith with Jerry Sittser
5 Guests I Won’t Forget
- 181 Kay Warren on Depression and Anxiety
- 377 Midlife Is No Joke: Marriage with Jimmy and Irene Rollins
- 310 Moving Through Grief and Loss at Christmas with Nancy Hicks
- David Thomas —> 274 Parenting Teens: Navigating Emotions & 165 Parenting in the New Year
- 261 Katherin Wolff on Suffering
Krista
Parenting Young Adult Children with Dr Jim Burns
Seven Surprising Ways to Rest with Dr Saundra Dalton
Jackie Green and Lauren McAfee - how to be a person of legacy
What Healthy Relationships do and don’t have with Gary Thomas
5 Episodes Where I’ve Implemented Something I Learned
- 446 Styling Fashion Over 40 with Julie Powell and Krista Olufson
- 437 Jumpstarting Your Midlife Health with Megan Dahlman
- 414 Beat the Frumpy - on fashion with Jammie Baker
- 312 The Healthy Way: Productivity and Habits with Tanya Dalton
- 430 The Art and Heart of Holiday Gathering with Anna Watson Carl
Krista
Ep 493 Experience God, Really with John Eldredge - quote + God being “right here” in you + pausing + day, week, month year plan for renewal
Lead your mindset with Emily Love
The Secret to Success with Jeff Henderson
Mental Training for Your Athlete and Yourself with Trisha Kroll
Healthy Relationships 101 with John Townsend
5 Episodes That Brought Me Joy (It was all about the guests)
- 455 & 456 Building a Lasting Legacy with Rick and Diane Thomas
- 445 Maximizing Your Look with Rebecca Reid, Color Analyst
- 326 The Brain Game: The Soul of Shame with Dr. Curt Thompson
- 305 The Family Legacy Series with Eric Peterson
- 95 Sally Clarkson
Krista
Cultivating a Marriage that Lasts with Dan Allender
The Secret to being instantly understood with John Trent
Lisa Bevere - b/c she’s awesome
Kate Merrick - b/c there’s no one like Kate and it’s a moving story of faith
Edie Littlefield Sundby - Movement heals the body
5 Episodes Others Have Talked About
- 421 & 422: What I’ve Noticed About You: Our Keys to Longterm Friendship
- 373: A Busy Mom’s Guide to Photo Organization with Casey Von Stein
- 469: Who Am I If?
- 378 Midlife is No Joke: Menopause with Dr. Carol Tanksley
- 472: Faith-Driven Voters: Questions We Ask as We Cast Our Ballots With Kaitlyn Schess
Krista
How to feel the feels with Aundi Kobler
Fighting for Family with Julie and Chris Bennett
DISC your way to better relationships
How to incorporate meaningful rituals into milestone birthdays
Innovation and creativity - two secrets to living life well with Ken Wytsma
She’s Re-launching - most recent episode on going back to work
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A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Books
Sacred Marriage- Gary Thomas
Sacred Parenting- Gary Thomas
And She Still Laughs- Kate Merrick
The Mission Walker- Edie Littlefield Sundby
Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out - Jim Burns
Try softer-Aundi kolber
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We are returning to our conversation with Kristen Douglass and Tammy Strait around re-entering the workforce after a mothering break. Whether you stepped out fulltime, took a part-time role for a number of years, or simply are looking for a pivot in your career as you enter midlife, this conversation will let you know you are not alone.
We are reminded that our mothering can have lots of transferrable skills, making us great leaders in the workplace. On the flip side, our work outside the home can offer us opportunity to provide financially for our families and give our kids insights in to what it is to live a multifaceted life.
From differentiating between facts and feelings to balancing work and family life, Tammy and Kristen speak directly to the midlife woman making career decisions. You are more than any of your roles. You are complex and your lane is wide for you to walk in step with God's good plans for you. We look forward to hearing where you are as you Relaunch your work life. IT IS YOUR TIME TO RISE!
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW
Book
A Non-anxious Presence: How a Changing and Complex World will Create a Remnant of Renewed Christian Leaders by Mark Sayers
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- If you are a mom, what mothering skills have helped you in your work?
- On the flip side, how has your work life impacted your mothering for good?
- Consider a pressure you have experienced in the last 20 years. How has that refined you to increase your holiness and make you more impactful at work?
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So many women in midlife are stepping into something new—switching careers, transitioning roles, or heading back to work after time spent raising kids. If that sounds like you, you’re going to love this episode on re-launching your next chapter with purpose and courage.
In part 1 of this 2-part series, we sit down with Kristen Douglass, MD, and Tammy Strait, JD—two incredible women who share their real-life journeys from professional life to stay-at-home motherhood and back again. Together, we unpack the messy, meaningful middle of returning to work: rebuilding confidence, facing fears with faith, and remembering what we’re truly capable of.
We talk about the power of persistence, the courage it takes to do something uncomfortable, and the importance of not letting obstacles keep you from what you’re meant to do. Kristen shares her story about being the person in Oregon who took the longest break from medical practice—and successfully fought to get re-credentialed. (Spoiler: it wasn’t easy, but it’s seriously inspiring.)
This episode is filled with hard-earned wisdom on overcoming limiting beliefs, recognizing the value of motherhood in the workplace, and learning to lead with open hands. Tammy and Kristen offer encouragement that’s both practical and heartfelt—reminding us to separate facts from feelings and to own our worth in a fresh, new season.
If you’re standing at a crossroads with your work or calling, this episode is for you.
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW
There is nothing that we do that can mess up God's plan over our lives.
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What is a fear you have about transitioning with work or re-entering the workforce?
- Kristen and Tammy both re-entering the workforce for different reasons, what is prompting you to make the transition in this season of your life? Name it specifically.
- What skills have you gained from all of your experiences that will translate no matter what arena you are in?
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Feeling a bit like the world has gone mad? Are you feeling like an outsider? Wondering where or how your understanding of God fits in today's cultural moment? Not sure how to respond in conversations when a certain topic comes up? This episode is for you!
No matter the issue of the moment, God invites us to be with people who think and live differently. The question is how do we do it in a way that honors God, others, and ourselves? Patrick Miller joins us to talk about the times we live in and how disorienting it can feel. He also offers practical approaches to conversations and situations that can feel awkward or downright uncomfortable without making them combative.
It is a tricky time to disagree. And yet, it is a joy to be with people who don't always see the world as we do. This is the tension Patrick speaks of that makes us joyful outsiders. This is one you may come back to often and will want to share with others.
FIND MORE ABOUT PATRICK MILLER
Patrick Miller & Keith Simon website - Joyful Outsiders
Patrick Miller's & Keith Simon Book- Joyful Outsiders
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Podcast
Ten Minute Bible Talks Devotional Bible Study
Truth Over Tribe: Christian Takes on Culture, News & Politics
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- When have you recently felt like an outsider?
- Patrick said Christians have always been outsiders, how does this truth shift your perspective on what it means to be an outsider?
- What would it look like the next time you feel like an outsider to invite Jesus to sit next to you and offer wisdom?
- How are you uniquely positioned to bring joy into the world?
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When we think of addiction, our minds often go to the "big three"—alcohol, drugs, and pornography. But addiction takes many forms. Workaholism, shopping, sugar, people-pleasing, and even exercise can become compulsive and harmful. The hard truth? We live in the most addicted culture in history.
In this conversation, Ian Morgan Cron joins us to explore how the 12 steps offer wisdom beyond traditional addiction recovery. We all need them and can apply them in our day-to-day lives. He shares his personal journey and reminds us that addiction isn’t a black-and-white issue—we’re all somewhere on the continuum, and the principles of recovery can benefit everyone.
One of our favorite takeaways from this episode: “We get sick alone. We heal together.” We dive into why community is essential for lasting wellness and why open conversations—especially with teens and young adults—are key to navigating today’s world.
If you’re ready to break free from unhealthy patterns and step into a healthier, more whole version of yourself, this episode is for you.
FIND MORE ABOUT IAN MORGAN CRON
Ian Morgan Cron- Website and Instagram
Ian Morgan Cron Book- The Fix
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Ian's Books:
-Chasing Francis: A Pilgrim's Tale
"The absence of addiction is not sobriety, it is connection"- Johann Hari
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- Ian describes addiction as an internal problem that you are trying to solve through external means what is that behavior for you?
- Where do you think you fall on addiction continuum?
- What mood altering behavior is having negative ramifications in your life?
- What action can you take to learn about the 12steps and how it can help you?
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Eric Scofield has an incredible story about his dad building a plane. You need to listen to our conversation to believe it. And from that he learned many of his bigger life lessons around how God made us and for purposes beyond our own imagination.
If you are feeling discouraged today, listen to this episode.
If you are wondering if God still has good things for you, push play.
If you think your best days are behind you, enjoy the conversation.
Midlife can make us wonder if we truly are "built to fly" or maybe our flight time is short. Eric reminds us that God can do a good, and even new, thing in us so we can live a full and fruitful life.
FIND MORE ABOUT ERIC SCOFIELD
Eric Scofield – Website
Eric Scofield book- Build To Fly
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
"The safest road to hell is the gradual one - the gentle slope, soft underfoot, without sudden turnings, without milestones, without signposts so that you do not know where you are going." - C. S. Lewis
Live No Lies book by John Mark Comer
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- How can you be a person who is faithful, available and teachable?
- Who in my life can I invest in who is FAT, (Faithful, Available & Teachable)
- Consider a recent crash in your life, what does rebuilding the plane look like for you right now?
- What in your life is behind that glass that you are trying to get, just like the chocolate in the story?
- What need do you think that will fulfill?
- How realistic is it that your chocolate (whatever it is), will fulfill that desire for you, or will it turn to dust in your hands?
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Have you ever learned something, thought you had it down, and then—boom—you realize you need to learn it all over again in this season of life? Yeah, us too.
This week, we’re diving into the lessons we’re re-learning in midlife and what scripture has to say about them. We talk about how fear sneaks into our decision-making now more than ever, the shift in how our kids watch and learn from us as they grow, and why it’s time to embrace strong over skinny.
We also unpack the surprising power of journaling for mental clarity, the societal shift from risk-taking to playing it safe, and why we still need to take risks in this stage of life. And of course, we get into friendship—how midlife invites us to reconnect with old and new friends in deep and meaningful ways.
If you’re finding yourself re-learning some big truths in this season, you are not alone—this episode is for you!
A FEW THINGS AND BIBLE VERSES MENTIONED
-Centering Prayer song by Porter's Gate
-Interior Freedom Boon by Jacques Philippe
-House of David series on Prime Time
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What are you re-learning right now?
- Are these welcome lessons or are you fighting the circumstances that are leading to them?
- How can you find God in what you are learning?
- What do you think He would say to you if you could hear His audible voice today?
- What limitation can you thank God for today that help you more fully depend on Him?
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We talk a lot about our spiritual life, but how do we move from words to experience? From the head to the heart? To a place of knowledge to deep bone belief? Author and spiritual guide John Eldredge gives us questions to ask and practices to put in place that will help us encounter God's presence in the here and now. An incredible conversation, you WILL NOT want to miss what John says to those of us who have been living out our faith for years. We can still experience Jesus in a fresh way.
You may know John from his bestselling book Wild at Heart or you may be familiar with the Pause app intended to help us in our spiritual journey. Whether you're familiar with the Eldredge name or are just being introduced to this seasoned spiritual leader, you will want to press play and listen in on how God is beckoning you back to him and how you can say "yes".
FIND MORE ABOUT JOHN ELDREDGE
John Eldredge Book- Experience Jesus. Really
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Interior Freedom by Jacque Philippe
Union with Christ Book
William Augusto -Worship Instrumental Music
John's Books
Bible Verse
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- Ask God what issue are we working on right now?
- What is taking space in your heart that isn't allowing room for God?
- Take a minute to practice benevolent detachment
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Today is part 2 of discussing how we can grow and shape our relationships with our adult siblings. Siblings are special because they know us over the entire span of our lives. They also walked in similar shoes as children, having grown up in the same family, and that produces an understanding and knowing that is special.
As we get older, life gets busy and we sometimes neglect these anchor relationships. Today we are discussing how we can intentionally grow them, work through conflicts that arise, and step into each other's lives in a meaningful way.
We know everyone has a different starting place when it comes to relationships with siblings. If you are someone who would like to work toward greater intimacy and trust with your siblings, regardless of where you are right now, these two episodes will offer both inspiration and practical steps.
This week covers ideas for staying current on one another's lives, what investing in our siblings' children looks like, how to show up for one another, and what it means to let each other evolve and change. You will walk away inspired to get closer with your siblings!
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW
-Let Them Theory Book by Mel Robbins
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- How can you know our siblings in the present tense?
- How can you work through conflict with your siblings while it's still small?
- How can you lean on each other's strength in decision-making whether that's around aging parents or maybe another issue?
- What is a next step that you can take with your adult sibling?
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Adult siblings often know us in ways others simply can't. The shared history, the developmental years, the shaping of each other in our most formative stages, create dynamics that we aren't able to duplicate. Depending on your relationship with your siblings, you might feel they are your most trusted life companions.
We are doing a two-part series with Krista and her brother Mitch and sister Kendra on the value of adult sibling relationships. This week we cover the unique role siblings can play, the importance of showing up in the details and milestones, and the opportunities we have to care for each other well in the midst of midlife stress.
We know everyone has a different starting place when it comes to relationships with siblings. If you are someone who would like to work toward greater intimacy and trust with your siblings, regardless of where you are right now, these two episodes will offer both inspiration and practical steps. This week is heavy on the why: Why should we care about the relationships today? Next week will cover some of the unique tensions adult siblings hold. Both are important as we move toward greater support for each other and health.
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW
- "Our Parents leave us too early, our spouses and children come along too late, our siblings are the only ones who are with us for the entire ride." Jeffrey Kluger
- John 1:5
- Vika's Spotify- Kendra's Daughter
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- How are your relationships with your siblings?
- In what way do your siblings know you in a way that nobody else does?
- How can you show up for your siblings in this season?
- How can you cultivate relationships with your niece and nephews?
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"Marriage can be heaven, and marriage can be hell." -Dan Allender
Anyone who is married knows that marriage can reach the extremes of human experience, and sometimes even in the same day. It's the lab in which we grow personally, and where we grow together. It's also the place where everything can fall apart.
Today Dan Allender of The Allender Center joins us to explore the transformative power of marriage, particularly in midlife. He talks about the deep work of understanding one another's stories, the role of trauma in relationships (even if you feel like you don't have any), and the necessity of dealing with emotional triggers.
Dan is both funny and deeply inspiring. He is an expert at the top of his field, and also the first one to reveal and share what he is experiencing in his own imperfect marriage.
You will gain insight into the complexities of relationships, the importance of change-agents in marriage, the dynamics of conflict resolution, and come to a fresh understanding of how fighting for marriage is deeply spiritual work.
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW:
The Deeply Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Healing, Intimacy, and Delight by Dan Allender and Steve Call
Unwanted by Jay Stringer
website-Dan Allender
Quotes from the episode:
35% of divorces are "gray divorces," meaning they involve couples 50 years of ago and older.
Our brains have the power to change, but only by engagement deeply within what we'll call our right hemisphere, our emotional portions.
If there is not a fabric of forgiveness, then we are in deep waters without a paddle.
Difference is where almost all conflict begins.
70 % of the conflict in marriage does not have a right answer.
You grow in trust by the capacity to deal with conflict, not to resolve, but to a deepened understanding. And to a deepened understanding allows us to allow difference to continue to occur.but without either the fear or the judgment that's often there.
I hope the sense of having work to do is kind of like, I get to put my foot on the neck of evil here. Hell no, I do not want something that has lingered in my body and my heart and my mind to continue to shape something of how I respond to the future.
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What part of your story can you re-engage with your spouse in order to work toward greater healing? Hint: think about what triggers you.
- What part of your spouse's story can you re-engage?
- If 70% of all arguments don't have a "right answer," how can you adjust how you've been approaching a conflict area with your spouse?
- The change agents Dan lists in his book are humility, honesty, kindness, curiosity, defiance, and an intention to bless. What one is most needed right now in your marriage?
- How can you "stand on the neck of evil" and push past a particularly difficult part of your marriage?
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Every year right around Valentine's Day we share some things we are loving that make our lives a little easier or more fun. This is a break from the thoughtful conversations we've been having, it settles in on some pretty practical tips. From books and podcasts to snacks and beauty products, Alex and Krista want to make sure you know what they are loving right now.
How about you? What makes your life more entertaining? What makes you smarter? Who are you following? What are you wearing? We want to know all of these midlife hacks because when you find something good, you need to share!!
This is one of our most popular episodes every year, tune in and get sharing your things you love.
THINGS WE LOVE
- Foods
- Athletic Brewing Company Non-alcoholic beer
-Quinoa Crisps Dark- Chocolate + Cherry
-Stone-Ground Grits
- Kitchen Gadgets
-All Clad Instant Read Digital Thermometer
-6-3/4 Coat Cast Iron Round Wide Dutch Oven
-Silver Flatware
- Podcast shows
-The Warrior Mama with Bethany Kimsey
-Up Until Now with Kristen Hallinan
-The Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast
-10% Happier with Dan Harris Podcast
- Books
- Music
-Porter's Gate Album- Sanctuary Song
-When the Day Comes- Nico & Vinz
- Instagram Follows
- Fashion & Beauty
-Steve Madden Hayle Ankle Boots
-Mother Jeans
-Charlotte Tilbury Red Hollywood Vixen Lipstick
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Teenagers: it's the best of times and the worst of times. We love them with our whole hearts, and they're also hard. Some are thriving, some aren't. We are quick to point fingers back at ourselves when things go wrong, and we breathe a sigh of relief when it's going right.
In this conversation, Alex and Krista discuss parenting teenagers with Melissa Kruger, vice president of discipleship at The Gospel Coalition and author of Parenting with Hope. Melissa speaks about the challenges and joys of raising teens in a complex world. We hit on understanding the spectrum of teen experiences, the role of prayer, and the need for open communication.
Melissa discusses the significance of tailoring parenting approaches to individual children and the necessity of maintaining hope amidst challenges. Teens today are facing pressures we simply did not have. Their challenges are different, and it serves us well to try and stand in their shoes.
You will walk away encouraged and re-centered from this episode!
FIND MORE ABOUT MELISSA KRUGER
Melissa Kruger's -Website and Instagram
Melissa Kruger's Book- Parenting with Hope
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW
Proverb 12:18
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing
SOME QUOTES FROM THE SHOW:
"I actually think it's sports and activities, it's scholastic achievement, and it's social acceptance. Those are the three, what I call, idols of our age that I think really raise the temperature in parenting teens right now."
"When you step back and say, huh, maybe it would really matter that our family had family dinners every night, and we're gonna fight for that. Maybe it would really matter that we have space to actually get a little bored and do a puzzle as a family."
"So many teens do not get the amount of sleep they need. That leads to greater rates of depression, which leads to greater problems down the road in other areas. And we're like, but they have to be at all these things (activities) or they won't be well-rounded. Who cares if they're well-rounded?"
"In the Barna research, the amount of pressure that kids feel is different than previous generations. And yes, technology is a part of that, but also just the ramp up of all of these things of doing club sports by the time you're seven or eight. All of that plays into this level of pressure and stress."
"Those simple acts of being in God's Word, being a mom of prayer, and being in church matter so I can parent well. I call it a three-legged stool."
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What is your current measure of hope with your teenager?
- How can you better address what is going on inside of your in order to better parent your teen?
- What of the three idols she mentioned, sports and activities, academic success, and social acceptance is most out of balance in your home?
- What can you do to create a more healthy rhythm in this area?
- How can you build your hope in Christ for you, for your own spiritual strength?
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Have you ever stuffed a feeling? Yeah, it happens for lots of reasons. We are afraid, don't like discomfort, or have been taught that certain feelings are bad. But no amount of pushing down makes the emotion go away. We need to deal with them at some point.
Therapist and author Aundi Kobler joins the podcast with why we may be avoiding certain emotions and practical approaches to face them in manageable pieces. There is no need to rush in head first. We can allow our bodies and brains to experience a little at a time. Through this paced approach and safe relationships, we can begin to experience our full range of emotions.
We encourage you to listen in as one of the best voices of today gives us her "Try Softer" approach to delving into what is likely scary territory. But remember it is our time to rise and meet the moment. 2025 may just be our year to open ourselves to emotions we have been avoiding.
FIND MORE ABOUT AUNDI KOLBER
Aundi Kolber's - Website and Instagram
Aundi Kolber's books- Take What You Need
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
-Aundi Kolber's books
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What has kept you from acknowledging emotions you know are there?
- What would it look like to allow yourself to give those emotions a seat at the table?
- What is your window of tolerance for those emotions right now?
- What kind of support do you need to be able to face some of those emotions, and how can you get it?
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What is the one place in your home you avoid? Has it built up clutter? Become the catch all for the things you don't know what to do with? Or is it full of items that have sentimental value that you can't throw out and yet feel stuck?
This month we are talking about things we avoid and how we can face them. This week we are covering things we avoid in our home. Items we don't know what to do with that grow into piles, areas, even rooms that have taken on a life of their own. Professional organizer Morgan Tyree speaks from her newest book, Take Back Your Home: How to Organize Every Room For a Stress-Free, Mess-Free, Happy Home. She gives us tools to get behind the of the avoiding, (it's deeper than you might think) and then practical step by steps to overcome them.
You won't want to miss this conversation that helps you determine what space you can tackle next as you organize your living and working space in the new year. It's time to take back your home.
FIND MORE ABOUT MORGAN TYREE
Morgan Tyree- Website and Instagram
Morgan Tyree Book- Take Back Your Home
A FEW THINGS MENTIONED
Snags mentioned:
-Schedules
-Purchases
-Experiences
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- How are you wired; are you more of a diamond or arrow, maybe more relaxed, a circle or bolt?
- How does your wiring impact how you manage your space?
- What areas are you avoiding in your home, what snags are impacting your avoidance?
- How can you face an area you are avoiding in the next few weeks, what accountability do you need to put in place?
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We've all heard of nightmare stories about inheritance gone wrong. Our mission today is to help you do it right. Inheritance, wealth transfer, wills, estate planning... whatever you call it, no matter the amount, it's important to be intentional around how to best pass on property, money, and items after someone passes away.
This is kicking off our series this month "Things We've Been Putting Off." We're going to be talking about some areas we've been ignoring and what we can do to step into those arenas equipped and with courage.
This subject of estate planning is one of those subjects that we often avoid, yet it is extremely relevant to us as people in midlife, and it's also relevant as our parents age.
Joining us to today are Sean and Jill Maher. Sean is a principal at Valley Forge Financial Group and CEO of Valley Forge Family Office in Pennsylvania. Jill is a licensed psychological counselor. This powerteam wrote the book, The Greatest Gift: Nine Principles to transfer your legacy along with your wealth.
In this conversation, we explore the complexities of inheritance, camping on themes you may not associate with estate planning such as family values, traditions, humility, and generosity. We discuss how these elements shape the way wealth is passed down and the emotional implications involved.
The Mahers share personal stories and insights on how to navigate difficult conversations about money and inheritance, highlighting the need for open communication and understanding within families. They also address the challenges of fairness versus equality in inheritance and the significance of creating a safe environment for these discussions.
This is a practical and helpful conversation you don't want to miss!
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW: PART 2
The Greatest Gift Book: to receive a $5 discount, enter code: ourtimetorise
Internal Family Systems
Homeboy Ministries
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- What helps you stand in humility when it comes to money conversations?
- How can you make sure your children know the fullness of your story, or your parent's story, or the people who came before you?
- What would growing the muscle of generosity in this season look like?
- How can you have conversations around assets that can be fair or equal?
- What spiritual practices can you implement that will protect your flame?
- How can you go into conversation regulated rather than mirroring the stress or fear of another?
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We've all heard of nightmare stories about inheritance gone wrong. Our mission today is to help you do it right. Inheritance, wealth transfer, wills, estate planning... whatever you call it, no matter the amount, it's important to be intentional around how to best pass on property, money, and items after someone passes away.
This subject is relevant to us as people in midlife, and it's also relevant as our parents age.
Joining us to today are Sean and Jill Maher. Sean is a principal at Valley Forge Financial Group and CEO of Valley Forge Family Office in Pennsylvania. Jill is a licensed psychological counselor. This powerteam wrote the book, The Greatest Gift: Nine Principles to transfer your legacy along with your wealth.
In this conversation, we explore the complexities of inheritance, camping on themes you may not associate with estate planning such as family values, traditions, humility, and generosity. We discuss how these elements shape the way wealth is passed down and the emotional implications involved.
The Mahers share personal stories and insights on how to navigate difficult conversations about money and inheritance, highlighting the need for open communication and understanding within families. They also address the challenges of fairness versus equality in inheritance and the significance of creating a safe environment for these discussions.
This is a practical and helpful conversation you don't want to miss!
SOME THINGS YOU HEARD ON THE SHOW:
Warren Buffet Talks to His Kids About His Will, You Should Too
John Gottman, The Four Horseman
The Greatest Gift Book: to receive a $5 discount, enter code: ourtimetorise
QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU RISE
- In what ways have you been avoiding a conversation regarding estate planning or money?
- In what area can you practice the tool I feel I need?
- How can you create a common purpose as a family?
- What is one action step you can take this week regarding this topic?
LET’S CONNECT!
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